Ben and Jerry's delivered by air? I'm moving to North Carolina
At The New York Times, Bob Morris says an email note is more and more considered acceptable for some thank-yous.
Even back then, Ms. Post acknowledged that letter writing was a chore.
Today, those who hate writing thank-you notes will be pleased to know that for dinner parties, even sticklers suggest you have to write them only if there was a written invitation.
And it has become more acceptable to phone or send an e-mail message of thanks, too, as long as it’s not from a cab two minutes after leaving. The point is to tell a host that the evening has lingered pleasantly in your mind, that it wasn’t taken for granted.
He covers all the bases, though. He later writes that it's best to send a note—
“But I don’t think you can ever write too many thank-you notes,” said Hilka Klinkenberg, whose firm, Etiquette International, advises business leaders. “At a time when everything is so fleeting, nothing has an impact like something handwritten.”
I’m with her. I love a good thank-you, agenda-laden or not. That’s why I eventually sent my hosts thanks for their great dinner.